This is a very important topic and may take up more than one article. I guess the first thing to talk about is just what do we mean by boundaries and why is it, when we do not keep them, we end up in such dysfunctional situations in our lives.
So first to talk about what boundaries may be…..Sometimes it seems a contradiction to talk about boundaries when so many of the greater truths assert that we are all one. So if that is the case, there should be no boundaries, right? Ah, but if that were the case then we would all just dissolve into being one again. Then there would be no fun of this expression of oneness, we call self. Yes we are all one but we are expressing our oneness in billions of different ways. And this oneness is especially being expressed in relationship. I think the important point here is understanding that even though we are one and connected, if we do not have boundaries, then the game of life would no longer be there.
I once described to my son that we all come from what I call Source, and let’s just say that Source is like a big pond that is; everything that is, was and will be. So there sits Source, just being, eternally with and without time. But lets say Source got a little bored with just being and decided to see what would happen if it started to create something other than itself. So Source started to create bubbles, and these bubbles were an expression of Source. Now with this picture in mind, in order to tell a bubble apart from Source, there must be form, and form contains shape and shape contains boundaries. You see where am going with this? In order for these expressions to interact with one another cohesively, they must have a clear definition. That is what we will call boundaries. Now at this point I want to be very clear that these boundaries do not necessarily need to remain static and unmoving but they do need to be clear at all times.
What happens if they are not clear? Then the bubble that was, is no more, it then becomes something else. So let’s try and relate this to people.

So keeping with the analogy of bubbles from Source, people are very colourful bubbles that come from Source. Now let’s say we come across a ‘people bubble’ that has lost it’s boundaries. What will it look like? How will it behave? Firstly, it would be a little unclear, as to it’s real shape as it is not clearly defined. Now when the edges of this bubble are not clear then it may well become distorted when it comes into contact with other ‘people bubbles’? It may even lose it’s shape altogether, merging with whoever it comes into contact with. It may even get so distorted as to not know what is real and what is not, and start behaving in what our modern world calls a psychotic manner.
When a ‘people bubble’ does not have clear boundaries it will also struggle in how it relates to other ‘people bubbles’. When it is not sure of it’s shape and characteristics, then it may think that the characteristics of the other bubbles are what it is, hence being thrown into a chaotic environment as every bubble that comes along can throw that bubble out of shape.
So this analogy seems to be a good one for getting a bit clearer idea of why we need boundaries at this point. Perhaps as we go further into it we find that there is another, even healthier way of being but let’s go one step at a time.
So it would seem that if we are to agree to be an expression of Source, which we will take as a given, as we are here as a human being at this point. So as a human being we could also say that Source was very intrigued to see all the different forms of expression that could be created, so we could say that each human being is unique. That is quite a feat! Source never ceases to impress me! So here we are, each unique expressions of Source. Now if we, for whatever reason (and the reasons alone could fill a book, but we won’t go into that now)  have lost our boundaries, what does that mean in terms of how we conduct our lives? And if we have lost or are not clear on our boundaries, how do we find them again? Good questions, so stay tuned and lets see if we can go into it together and learn as we go. For now this is quite a bit of information, let’s just absorb being a bubble!

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